Get what you need to thrive.

Empowerment Coaching with Xilo

You already have what you need. Let me help you access the parts of yourself carrying the answer.

We all have much more practice abandoning ourselves, prioritizing others, and carrying the burden of how we “should” exist than accepting our authentic selves and embracing our unique needs. Throughout our coaching relationship, I’ll create space for you to find the inner peace and wisdom you need to approach each day with the confidence and trust in yourself you need to achieve your goals. Whether you’re seeking support as a parent, partner, professional, teenager, or neurodivergent individual, you’re in the right place.

This is where you’ll thrive. I’m so glad you’re here.

  • Connect

    👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Improve the quality of your relationships and manage household conflict peacefully

    💔 Avoid cycles of blame and shame, create space for fulfilling intimacy, and foster emotional safety in your home

    💡 Collaborate to learn and address competing needs while consistently enforcing boundaries

  • Heal

    🌟 Recover from burnout and find your way out of survival mode

    🤝 Embrace self-compassion and discover the true meaning of self-care

    🔄 Release yourself from shame spirals and process how your past experiences are affecting your current reality

    🛑 Understand how oppressive systems have impacted you and stop self-abandoning & people-pleasing

  • Shine

    🌱 Unmask your authentic self and learn how to manage your neurodivergence

    🎉 Celebrate your strengths and interests while achieving a balance that ensures all of your needs are met

    ⚖️ Live from your values and design a life aligned to your core beliefs

    🎯 Take action toward short and long-term personal and professional fulfillment

What to expect

  • I coach teens (13+), adults, couples, and families from an anti-oppressive and client-centered perspective.

    Areas of Specialty:

    • life transitions

    • self-doubt/strengthening intuition

    • guilt/shame

    • gender & sexuality

    • monogamy & non-monogamy

    • ADHD & autism

    • sex, intimacy, & kink

    • CPTSD

    • anxiety

    • grief and loss

    • substance use

    • eating disorders

    • healing from attachment wounds

    • interpersonal conflict

    • executive function/household management

    • parenting

  • While I am not a licensed therapist, I am trained and practiced in many therapeutic modalities and theories that inform my overall approach. My work with each client is customized based on their needs and rooted in deep compassion and high regard for every individual’s ability to create sustainable change.

    • Internal Family Systems (IFS)/Parts Work

    • Neurodiversity-Affirming Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

    • Attachment Theory

    • Mindful Self-Compassion

    • Somatic experiential interventions

    • Psychodynamic Theory

    • Creative arts therapy

    • Goal-oriented/solutions-focused coaching

    • Play Therapy

  • Depending on your preference, sessions are held via Zoom or phone call. Join while walking, under a weighted blanket, or with your furry friend! It's important for you to have privacy and be as comfortable and focused as possible.

    Individual coaching sessions are typically 50 minutes long. You can choose to set up a consistent weekly or bi-weekly coaching session or schedule at your convenience on my booking page!

  • Individual Sessions

    Adult Coaching Session (50 minutes) - $175

    Couple/Family Session (75 minutes)- $210

    Teen Session (50 minutes) - $100

    Commit to your ongoing growth and get a reduced rate when you pay for a month at a time!

    4 Adult Coaching Sessions per month - $600 (Save $100)

    2 Adult Coaching Sessions per month - $325 (Save $75)

    4 Teen Coaching Sessions per month - $400

Take the first step toward building the life you deserve.